Questions, answered.

Relationship therapy is a dedicated space where you can speak honestly about what’s happening in the relationships that matter to you, with someone trained to help you understand the patterns and dynamics at play. Sessions run for 50 minutes, usually weekly. My job isn’t to take sides or steer you toward any particular outcome. It’s to help you feel genuinely heard, and from that place, to make clearer choices about what you actually want.

You don’t need to be in crisis. Most people come because they’ve noticed something has shifted, such as growing distance, repeated arguments, loss of connection, or confusion about what they want. They want to address it while there’s still good will to work with. Others come after something’s broken, like infidelity or a major life shock. If something feels off in your relationships, that’s enough.

I work integratively, drawing on relational, attachment based, and systemic approaches rather than following one fixed method. What matters more than the label is that the approach fits the two, or more, of you and what you’re bringing, so it tends to adapt as the work goes on rather than following a set programme throughout.

Everything you discuss in sessions is confidential. The only exceptions are if there’s a serious risk of harm to someone, or if there are reasonable grounds to believe a child is at risk.

Yes. I work with couples, triads, polycules, and relationship groups of up to four people. The dynamics are more complex with more people, but the work is the same. Everyone involved attends sessions together, and we focus on the patterns and communication that shape how you relate to each other.

Yes. I work with specific relationships that matter to you, such as siblings navigating conflict or distance, friendships in difficulty, or professional partnerships that are strained. The approach is the same whether you’re working on a long friendship that’s hitting trouble, sibling dynamics, or a workplace relationship. If the relationship is significant to you, it’s worth exploring.

Yes. If your partner or the other person isn’t ready to come, or if you want to work on your own stuff first, individual sessions are absolutely an option. We’ll focus on patterns you notice in your relationships, how you show up, and what you might want to do differently. If we start the work individually, we cannot move into relationship work later. We can, though, work on outlining your goals for starting relationship work with another therapist.

Yes. My practice is built on genuine inclusion. I have training and ongoing experience working with same sex couples, trans and non binary people, and anyone navigating questions of sexual orientation or gender identity. This isn’t a specialist add on. It’s core to how I work.

Yes. I work with open relationships, polyamorous partnerships, and other consensually non monogamous structures, and I don’t assume that any one structure is the goal. The work focuses on how you communicate, handle jealousy and difference, and make agreements that fit the people involved.

Yes. Mismatched desire, low libido, loss of physical intimacy, and questions about sexual identity all come up regularly in my work. I’m sex positive and kink aware. I bring curiosity to all expressions of sexuality and desire, without judgement.

This is common, and it doesn’t mean nothing can be done. A single, calm conversation framed around what you want for the relationship, rather than what’s wrong with your partner, tends to help. Suggesting the free consultation specifically is often the easiest way in, since it’s a much smaller step than committing to ongoing sessions. If they’re still not ready, individual sessions are a genuine option in the meantime. I’ve written a fuller guide on this situation, What to do when your partner won’t go to couples therapy.

That’s a good reason to come, not a reason to wait. A good amount of the work I do is with couples working out whether to stay together or separate, sometimes called considered separation. The aim isn’t to steer you toward either outcome. It’s to help you both get real clarity about what you actually want. My article Should We Stay Together or Break Up? looks at this in more detail.

The consultation runs for 30 minutes and has three parts. First, I’ll give you an overview of how I work and what to expect from therapy with me. Second, I’ll gather information from you about what’s brought you in and what you’re hoping for. If you’re comfortable, I’ll take notes with your approval. Third, I’ll walk you through the admin side of things, including how booking and time slots work, the cost of sessions, contracting, and anything else you need to know. It’s not a therapy session. It’s a chance to see if working together feels right.

The first session is about getting to know each other, not diving straight into fixing anything. I’ll want to hear from everyone involved about what’s brought you in and what the relationship looks like from each of your perspectives. Some of this conversation will have happened in the consultation, but now we start going deeper and really understanding the dynamics. People often aren’t sure what to say at first, and that’s completely fine. We’ll find the shape of it together.

There’s no fixed answer. It depends entirely on what you’re working with and what you’re hoping for. Some people see real shifts in a handful of sessions. Others work longer term. We’ll check in regularly about what’s working and what isn’t, and you’re never locked into anything.

Single session therapy is one focused 110 minute session for an individual or a couple, built around a specific question or decision. You complete a short preparation workbook beforehand, we work through your question together, and afterwards you receive a written reflection and a follow up workbook. An optional follow up session is available. It is offered in person at the three London rooms or online by video anywhere in the UK. It suits a clear question or a first step, and it is not a replacement for ongoing therapy where the work needs more time. You can read more on the single session therapy page.

A weekly reserved slot holds the same day and time for you every week, at a lower rate per session, and it is what I recommend for most ongoing work. Ad hoc sessions are booked as and when you need them, at a higher rate, and a particular time cannot be guaranteed. If you are unsure which suits you, we can talk it through in the free consultation.

Yes. Relational work works best when everyone involved is there. Occasionally individual sessions can support the process, but these are discussed in advance and shared equally between you.

I work in person from private therapy rooms in Kensington, Pimlico, and Angel. All three are easily accessible by public transport across London. The Locations page has full details and directions.

I can do the free consultation online if that works better for you, and single session therapy is also available by video anywhere in the UK. But my standard ongoing therapy work is in person from one of the three London rooms. There’s something about being in the same physical space that helps relational work land. If you need occasional online sessions because of travel or illness, we can talk about it case by case. But the foundation is in person sessions.

No, I don’t work with clients outside the UK. My professional registration, insurance, and liability cover are specific to UK practice. There are also regulatory frameworks around data protection, client safeguarding, and crisis support that differ by country. This applies even if you’re in the EU within the same time zone. If you’re based outside the UK but planning a move to London, we can discuss timing. Otherwise, I’d recommend finding a therapist registered in your own country.

Couples and relationship therapy sessions are £125 per session on a weekly reserved slot, or £150 for ad hoc bookings. Polycules (up to four people) are £180 per session. Individual sessions are £85 weekly or £95 ad hoc. Single session therapy, which lasts 110 minutes, is £220 for an individual and £330 for a couple. The free 30 minute consultation comes before you commit to anything.

Yes. The Resources page has free preparation workbooks for the consultation, and paid workbooks including The Anxious Attachment Workbook, The Avoidant Attachment Workbook and Working With Your Attachment Styles Together. They are designed to support therapy, not to replace it.

No, I don’t take insurance. All sessions are self funded and paid for directly.

You can book the free 30 minute consultation directly through the Free Consultation page or get in touch via the Contact page. I aim to respond to all enquiries within two working days.