How to Separate or Divorce Without Destroying Yourself or Each Other
Nobody plans to make their separation painful. But most people do, without meaning to. A London couples therapist on what a good separation looks like, and how to get there.
Life After Separation: How to Start Again
Most people expect to feel sad after a separation. Fewer expect to feel lost. A London therapist on what individual therapy offers when a relationship has run its course.
Why Heatwaves Make You Argue With Your Partner
You’re not imagining it, and it’s not just you. Heat does something real to mood, patience, and conflict. A London couples therapist on what’s happening and what to do about it.
Co-Parenting After Separation: Keeping Communication Working When the Relationship Hasn't
You don't have to like each other to co-parent well. But you do have to communicate. This piece looks at what gets in the way, what research says works, and what to do when it isn't working.
Telling the Kids About Separation: How and When
Telling the kids about separation is one of the hardest conversations separating parents face. A London couples therapist on timing, what to say at each age, and how to make the conversation as safe as possible.
Should We Stay Together for the Kids?
‘Should We Stay Together for the Kids? ‘ is one of the questions couples who are also parents ask most and answer least honestly. A London couples therapist on what the research says, and what matters for children.
Long-Distance Relationships Through Summer
Summer can strain a long-distance relationship in ways that feel disproportionate to what's actually happening. A London couples therapist on why, and what tends to help.
Can a Trial Separation Save a Relationship? The Case For and Against
Weighing up a trial separation? A London couples therapist sets out the genuine case for and against, what the research actually shows, and how therapy can help either way.
When One Partner Wants to Travel and the Other Doesn't
When travel becomes a recurring source of tension between you and your partner, the disagreement is rarely really about the trip. A London couples therapist explains what's underneath it.
How to Know When a Relationship Is Over
Wondering if your relationship is over? A London couples therapist looks at what’s really being weighed when this question won’t go away, and what can help.
The Summer Slump: When the Relationship Feels Flat in Long Days
Long summer evenings can expose a flatness in a relationship that the rest of the year hides. A London therapist on what flatness means, and what it doesn't.
Sex on Holiday: Why It Doesn't Always Live Up to Expectations
You expected the holiday to revive your sex life. It didn't. A London relationship therapist on why that's common, what's underneath it, and what helps.
When Summer Exposes the Cracks: What to Do With What Comes Up
A difficult summer can surface things you had been managing not to see. A London relationship therapist on how to use post-summer clarity well.
Porn Addiction and Relationships: A Therapist's Guide
Porn addiction is a contested term, but the distress it names is real. A London relationship therapist on what helps couples and individuals work through the impact of porn use.
Summer and Infidelity: What the Research Actually Says
Online claims about summer affairs are often overstated. A London relationship therapist on what the research really shows, and what it does and doesn't mean.
When You Realise You Have Nothing Left to Say to Each Other
Long silences with your partner can feel terminal, but they rarely are. A London relationship therapist on what conversational drift actually means.
Surviving the School Holidays as a Couple: Why Six Weeks Together Is Harder Than It Looks
Six weeks of school holidays is a stress test most couples don't expect. A London relationship therapist on why it strains things, and what helps.
Why Couples Argue More on Holiday (and What to Do About It)
Holidays expose what everyday life hides. A London relationship therapist on why couples argue more on holiday, what's underneath it, and what helps.
If You Don't Want Couples Therapy: An Honest Guide for the Sceptic
If your partner wants couples therapy and you don't, you are not unusual. A London relationship therapist on what to actually expect, for the sceptic.
What to Do When Your Partner Won't Go to Couples Therapy
Partner reluctant about couples therapy? A London relationship therapist on what helps, what doesn't, and what to read together before deciding.