I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the room. Jealousy. Coming out to a partner. Separation. Sex and intimacy. The ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
Below, everything is grouped by topic if you're looking for something specific, or simply scroll through what's most recent. And if something here resonates, or you'd like support with what you're going through, I offer a free 30-minute consultation, in person in London or by video.
Meeting the Inner Child: Understanding a Core Part of Ourselves
Many of our adult struggles—like anxiety, low self-worth, or difficulty with relationships—can trace their roots back to unmet needs from childhood. The concept of the inner child helps us understand how early emotional wounds continue to shape our daily lives. In this article, we explore what it means to reconnect with your inner child, how it shows up in everyday patterns, and how therapy can offer healing, safety, and transformation.
Dealing with Rejection: A Compassionate Guide
Rejection is an unavoidable part of life. Whether it’s a job application, a relationship, a creative endeavour, or even a social invitation, being told “no” or feeling excluded can sting deeply. For many of us, the natural response is to internalize rejection—to see it as a reflection of our worth, ability, or likability. However, learning to experience rejection without taking it personally is not only possible but incredibly freeing.