The Four Communication Styles That Harm Relationships — and How to Change Them

We all want to feel heard, understood, and safe in our relationships — yet the way we communicate often gets in the way of that connection. Over time, small habits like criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and withdrawal can quietly erode trust and closeness. In this article, I explore the four communication styles that harm relationships — and how to replace them with empathy, respect, and emotional safety. Real change begins not with perfect words, but with the intention to truly understand one another.