Relationship guides & workbooks.
Relationships rarely come with instructions, and most of us were never taught how to talk about the things that matter most.
Here I bring together the guides and workbooks I write through Rise and Grow Therapy™ for couples and individuals who want a practical place to start. Each one draws on my work as a relationship therapist in London, on research, and on the patterns I see in the therapy room.
They are written to be used at your own pace, alone or with a partner, with reflection pages you can write on. Everything here is designed to be inclusive, whatever your gender, sexuality or relationship structure.
The guides are educational and are not a substitute for therapy, so if you would like support alongside them, I offer a free 30 minute consultation.
Practical guides and workbooks to help you talk, reflect and connect.
Start with the free downloads below, or browse the guides available to purchase.
Free Relationship Guides
Practical downloads for couples, and for anyone in a relationship who wants to talk, connect and handle conflict well.
Preparing for your consultationA free workbook to help you gather your thoughts before a first consultation, from why now to what you hope will change. It is optional, private and yours to keep, and you are welcome to simply read it.
Time out plan for heated argumentsA one page plan for pausing a heated argument and coming back to it calmly. Agree it together while you are both calm, so it is ready when you need it.
Weekly relationship check inA simple 20 minute structure for staying connected, adapted from the State of the Union meeting by John and Julie Gottman. It helps you appreciate each other, raise one concern gently and plan something small for the week ahead.
Free Individual Guides
Reflective downloads for you, whether or not you are in a relationship.
Preparing for your consultationA free workbook for thinking about what has brought you to therapy now and what you hope will change. It is optional and private, and it is for you only.
Needs and boundaries reflectionA reflection page for working out what you need from other people and where your boundaries sit. It includes a grid for putting boundaries into your own words, with phrases that can help.
Telling someone something difficultA reflective guide for before you tell someone something difficult, such as coming out or sharing something personal. It looks at what might come up for you, what avoiding it may be protecting you from, and how to settle yourself before and during the conversation.
