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I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with relationships, couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the therapy room; jealousy, coming out to a partner, separation, sex and intimacy, and the ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.

Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.

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What OCD Really Is – And Why Popular Culture Often Gets It Wrong
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What OCD Really Is – And Why Popular Culture Often Gets It Wrong

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions. While it’s often referenced in a throwaway line — “I’m so OCD about my desk” — the reality for those who live with OCD is far more complex, painful, and debilitating than a preference for tidiness. These casual comments, though often harmless in intent, perpetuate myths that can make it harder for people with OCD to be taken seriously and access the support they need.

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