I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the room. Jealousy. Coming out to a partner. Separation. Sex and intimacy. The ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
Below, everything is grouped by topic if you're looking for something specific, or simply scroll through what's most recent. And if something here resonates, or you'd like support with what you're going through, I offer a free 30-minute consultation, in person in London or by video.
The Sunday Scaries: Why We Feel Them and How Therapy Can Help
Explore the psychology behind the “Sunday scaries,” practical strategies to ease anxiety before the week ahead, and how therapy can support lasting change for those struggling with chronic Sunday night dread.
What OCD Really Is – And Why Popular Culture Often Gets It Wrong
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions. While it’s often referenced in a throwaway line — “I’m so OCD about my desk” — the reality for those who live with OCD is far more complex, painful, and debilitating than a preference for tidiness. These casual comments, though often harmless in intent, perpetuate myths that can make it harder for people with OCD to be taken seriously and access the support they need.