I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the room. Jealousy. Coming out to a partner. Separation. Sex and intimacy. The ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
Below, everything is grouped by topic if you're looking for something specific, or simply scroll through what's most recent. And if something here resonates, or you'd like support with what you're going through, I offer a free 30-minute consultation, in person in London or by video.
Jealousy in Non-Monogamous Relationships
A London relationship therapist on jealousy in polyamorous and open relationships: what it looks like, what compersion is, and why opening up doesn't switch jealousy off.
What Is Consensual Non-Monogamy? Modern Love, Many Forms
A London relationship therapist on the many forms non-monogamy takes, what the research shows, and what to expect from affirming relationship therapy.