I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the room. Jealousy. Coming out to a partner. Separation. Sex and intimacy. The ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
Below, everything is grouped by topic if you're looking for something specific, or simply scroll through what's most recent. And if something here resonates, or you'd like support with what you're going through, I offer a free 30-minute consultation, in person in London or by video.
Sadness or Depression? Understanding the Difference and When to Seek Support
Sadness is a universal human emotion. It touches all of us at various points in our lives, often as a natural response to loss, disappointment, or transition. Depression, on the other hand, is a mental health condition that extends beyond the realm of typical emotional experience. Yet, it’s not always easy to tell where one ends and the other begins. In a world where emotional language is increasingly used with openness, many people are left wondering: Am I just sad, or am I depressed?
This article aims to offer clarity on the difference between sadness and depression, explore how they show up in the body and mind, and provide guidance on when it’s time to seek professional support. Whether you’re trying to understand your own emotional state or support someone close to you, this is a compassionate space to explore these vital distinctions.