Relationship advice & insights.
I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the room — jealousy, coming out to a partner, separation, sex and intimacy, and the ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
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- Attachment 5
- Attachment and Patterns 2
- Communication 5
- Communication and conflict 7
- Consensual Non Monogamy 2
- Couples therapy London 63
- Emotional Abuse 2
- Ethical Non Monogamy 2
- Infidelity & Betrayal 5
- Jealousy 3
- LGBT+ Therapy 19
- LGBTQ+ Couples 13
- Labels 2
- Mental Health and Wellbeing 19
- Money and Relationships 4
- Non-Monogamy and Open Relationships 1
- Parenting 3
- Polyamory 2
- Pre-Marital Therapy London 1
- Relationship Therapy London 1
- Relationship therapy London 61
- Separation and Divorce 7
- Sex and Intimacy 8
- Summer 4
- Trust and Repair 4
Bisexual Erasure in Relationships and Why It Happens
A London relationship therapist on bisexual erasure in relationships, how it shows up differently for men and women, and what making real space looks like.
Am I Bisexual? What It Means and What Happens Next
A London relationship therapist on working out whether you're bisexual, what the research says, and what it means if this comes up inside a relationship.
Coming Out to Your Partner
A London relationship therapist on coming out to your partner, what tends to happen next, and why it doesn't automatically mean the relationship is over.
Am I Heteroflexible? Questioning Your ‘Straightness’ And What It Means for Your Relationship
A London relationship therapist on heteroflexibility, what the research shows, how it differs from bisexuality, and what it means for your relationship.
Is My Partner Gay? My Partner Is Questioning Their Sexuality
A London relationship therapist unpacks what it can feel like for the partner of someone questioning their sexuality, what it does and doesn't mean, why the silence happens, and what helps.
Am I Gay? Questioning Your Sexuality While in a Relationship
A London relationship therapist on noticing same-sex attraction while partnered, what it might mean, why you don't need an answer yet, and how therapy can help.