I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the room. Jealousy. Coming out to a partner. Separation. Sex and intimacy. The ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
Below, everything is grouped by topic if you're looking for something specific, or simply scroll through what's most recent. And if something here resonates, or you'd like support with what you're going through, I offer a free 30-minute consultation, in person in London or by video.
Porn Addiction and Relationships: A Therapist's Guide
Porn addiction is a contested term, but the distress it names is real. A London relationship therapist on what helps couples and individuals work through the impact of porn use.
Why Couples Argue More on Holiday (and What to Do About It)
Holidays expose what everyday life hides. A London relationship therapist on why couples argue more on holiday, what's underneath it, and what helps.
Why couples argue about money (and what to do about it)
Money is the top predictor of relationship breakdown. A London relationship therapist explains why money arguments hit so hard, what UK couples are really fighting about, and what helps.