Relationship advice & insights.
I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with relationships, couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the therapy room; jealousy, coming out to a partner, separation, sex and intimacy, and the ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
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- Attachment 7
- Attachment and Patterns 2
- Communication 5
- Communication and conflict 9
- Consensual Non Monogamy 2
- Couples therapy London 96
- Emotional Abuse 4
- Ethical Non Monogamy 2
- Grief and Loss 1
- Infidelity & Betrayal 5
- Jealousy 3
- LGBT+ Therapy 19
- LGBTQ+ Couples 13
- Labels 4
- Mental Health and Wellbeing 20
- Money and Relationships 4
- Neurodiversity and Relationships 6
- Non-Monogamy and Open Relationships 5
- Online Therapy 1
- Parenting 8
- Polyamory 2
- Pre-Marital Therapy London 1
- Relationship Therapy London 2
- Relationship therapy London 92
- Separation and Divorce 10
- Sex and Intimacy 13
- Single Session Therapy 1
- Summer 4
- Trust and Repair 5
Conflict Avoidance in Relationships and What Helps
Avoiding conflict in a relationship, why couples avoid hard talks, what it costs and how to start changing it.
I Don't Trust My Partner Anymore and What It Means
Why trust fades, what to do when you no longer trust your partner, and how couples can rebuild it.
Contempt in Relationships and How to Turn It Around
Contempt in relationships, why it hurts, how it grows and what helps, for all couples and when to seek help.
Why Do I Feel Lonely in My Relationship?
You're not imagining it, and you're not the only one. A London couples therapist on why loneliness inside a relationship is real, common, and different from being alone.
Why Heatwaves Make You Argue With Your Partner
You’re not imagining it, and it’s not just you. Heat does something real to mood, patience, and conflict. A London couples therapist on what’s happening and what to do about it.
Long-Distance Relationships Through Summer
Summer can strain a long-distance relationship in ways that feel disproportionate to what's actually happening. A London couples therapist on why, and what tends to help.
Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? Understanding Low Libido in Relationships
A London relationship therapist explores why couples stop having sex, the emotional dynamics behind low libido, and how intimacy can be rebuilt over time.
Why Some Couples Experience More Relationship Problems In Winter Months And How Therapy Can Help
Winter can be a beautiful time of year; cozy evenings, twinkling lights, celebrations, and the promise of a fresh start with the new year. However, for some couples, the colder months bring more than just frosty mornings; they also bring tension, disconnection, fights and conflict.