Relationship advice & insights.
I'm Mark Ryan, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and NCPS Accredited Relationship Therapist working with relationships, couples, individuals, and polycules across London. This is where I write about the things that come up most often in the therapy room; jealousy, coming out to a partner, separation, sex and intimacy, and the ordinary arguments that usually aren't about what they first appear to be about.
Some of what's here is written for couples working through something together. Some of it is for one person trying to make sense of their own experience before bringing a partner into it. All of it is grounded in research and real clinical practice, not generic advice dressed up as insight.
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- Attachment 7
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- Communication 5
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- Consensual Non Monogamy 2
- Couples therapy London 84
- Emotional Abuse 4
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- Grief and Loss 1
- Infidelity & Betrayal 5
- Jealousy 3
- LGBT+ Therapy 19
- LGBTQ+ Couples 13
- Labels 4
- Mental Health and Wellbeing 20
- Money and Relationships 4
- Neurodiversity and Relationships 6
- Non-Monogamy and Open Relationships 5
- Parenting 6
- Polyamory 2
- Pre-Marital Therapy London 1
- Relationship Therapy London 1
- Relationship therapy London 82
- Separation and Divorce 7
- Sex and Intimacy 11
- Summer 4
- Trust and Repair 4
Is My Ex Just Anxious? What Social Media Gets Wrong
Why calling an ex anxious can be a way of avoiding a harder question, what it costs you, and how to look honestly at what happened instead.
Is My Ex Just Avoidant? What Social Media Gets Wrong
Why avoidant has become the internet's favourite villain label, what it costs you to reach for it, and what a more honest account of the relationship looks like. A London relationship therapist explains.
Is My Ex a Narcissist? What Social Media Gets Wrong
Why the narcissist label feels so satisfying after a breakup, what it costs you, and how to look honestly at what happened instead. A London relationship therapist explains.
Narcissist, Avoidant, Anxious: Why the Label Lets Everyone Off the Hook
Why calling your partner (or yourself) a narcissist, avoidant, or anxiously attached often gets in the way of the honest conversation, and the real change, you need. A London relationship therapist outlines the challenges with labels and how therapy can help.